Came across this question & answer on Quora today. My comment is below, summarize by the sentence “PDs are the red-headed step-children of the MI community. “

My comment:

My understanding is that trauma is often at the heart of the etiology of a PD. I don’t get why a distinction is being drawn here between those with PD and those with trauma. It seems to me that people with PDs are often looked down upon by clinicians and by others in the MI community with higher-status disorders, and this seems to be a case in point. You could say I’m being defensive because I’m borderline, which is true, but I believe any honest, objective look at the situation will lead to the same conclusion. PDs are the red-headed step-children of the MI community.

As far as not being “on the same side” as the therapist, those of us who are aware of and accepting of our PD can absolutely counter this tendency. I work well with my therapist. Of course, I point it out to her when she’s wrong, but that’s usually just me standing on my principles. I don’t think the negative picture you paint here is helpful to anyone without a little balance.